The OuchKit
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The OuchKitHow Can an OuchKit Help Me?When people are mad, sad, hurt or scared, they do one of three things really well. They fight. They flee. Or they freeze. These reflexes work great, if you're a pit bull, a gazelle, or a rabbit. But if you're like most people, these defensive behaviors won't get you very far in your personal and professional relationships. The OuchKit is a simple but elegant tool that will teach you how to calm yourself down when you're in a crisis, and identify and express
your feelings --without defensiveness, shame, or blame. With practice, you can transform your relationships simply by changing how you respond when your internal alarm goes off, and how you express your feelings to others. Who's it for?The OuchKit was designed for couples, but it works great with kids, too -- at home or in the classroom. It's for anyone who wants to improve communication and take their relationships to the next level. The cards work great anytime, but they work MAGIC when you've got something to say but aren't ready to say it face-to-face.How it works
Keep exchanging cards until you are both feeling better.Here are examples of some of the most common exchange sequences:
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It's
simple. You get a strong feeling and fill out the back of whichever
card suits your mood. Next, you leave the card where your partner
is sure to find it. Then your partner responds with another card
-- whichever one feels right. 
Created by Betsy Sansby, MS, a licensed marriage and family therapist with 30 years experience working with couples, and over 25 years of marriage.
