Imagine what would happen if every time you logged on to your computer, a bag of fun-sized Snickers magically dropped into your lap. If you like Snickers, and you're bored (and nobody's watching), chances are you're going to tear into that bag and have a handful. This is what happens to men. They click open their email, and bags and bags of Snickers tumble into their laps. And if they open a bag, just out of curiosity to see how a Snicker might taste, more bags appear. And more. . . And more. Plus, they're free. Free nonfat Snickers. What's not to like?

Dear Heartbroken,

Unfortunately, the rate of internet porn addiction is rising every day. And if you think about it, it's understandable. Imagine what would happen if every time you logged on to your computer, a bag of fun-sized Snickers magically dropped into your lap. If you like Snickers, and you're bored (and nobody's watching), chances are you're going to tear into that bag and have a handful.

This is what happens to men. They click open their email, and bags and bags of Snickers tumble into their laps. And if they open a bag, just out of curiosity to see how a Snicker might taste, more bags appear. And more. . . And more. Plus, they're free. Free nonfat Snickers. What's not to like?

That's how many men see it. But the Snickers aren't free, because nobody can eat just one. They're like any addiction. The more you eat, the more you want. And pretty soon, Snickers don't do it for you the way they used to. Now you want Milky Ways and Kit Kats and Red Hots. Over time, what started out as a curiosity has become a way of life. A secret, embarrassing, shame-inducing way of life that makes being in a real relationship, with a real woman with needs and wants, and bad moods, and natural boobs becomes more and more difficult.

It could be that your husband is still in the curiosity phase. But if he's not . . . If he's spending more and more time looking at porn on the computer, or trying to resist looking at porn on the computer, then he could be well on his way to developing an addiction. If he's got an addictive personality, meaning he's learned how to deal with stress or boredom by compulsively using chemicals or behaviors, then porn addiction is a good possibility.

The best way to help him and your relationship, would for him to join a self-help group called "SAA," or Sex Addicts Anonymous. It's a great organization based on the same 12 Steps as Alcoholics Anonymous. The beauty of this group is that it's free, there are groups in every major city on the planet, and it works---as long as the person in it takes the steps seriously. I love 12 Step groups because they give men a safe place to talk about what's really going on inside.

There's certainly hope for you and your husband. The main thing is to get help soon, before a mindless habit becomes a serious addiction.

Best of luck to you both,