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Using the OuchKit when Kids Get Sullen
Jul 23, 2007
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The OuchKit is truly priceless. My son Max is 10, highly gifted, outspoken, and while he will squeeze the life out of me with a bear hug, a moment later, without intention I may say or do something that causes him to go silent -- and I do wonder how he really feels. Especially, when I ask what's wrong and I get a sullen, "Nothing."
Secret Santa Card
Jul 23, 2007
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I got an Ouch card from one of my husband's children. There wasn't a name on it so I couldn't tell who wrote it but it didn't matter. It said "I feel bad when your mean to me and let your daughter do anything she wants. To me it means that you are unfair."
I used an Ouch Card today
Jul 23, 2007
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Hey, I used an Ouch Card today. My husband found it amazing that I would mark 'unattractive' when it was about a comment he made about my businesses. (Not intentionally hurtful, of course.)
A Powerful New Tool For Journaling
Jul 23, 2007
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I have kept a journal for the past twenty years. Writing my thoughts for twenty minutes a day has been a tremendous help in bringing clarity to my thinking and discovering patterns in my life. Despite my commitment to the process, I often get ?stuck.?
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Minnetonka, MN 55345

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"I always have you tucked in my heart!! Chere, President of the Betsy Sansby fan club!! ChereCoach.com "

"I think it's incredible what you offer for couples. Keep up the good work. Scott Haltzman, MD, author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men

"Betsy, Thank you so very much! Our first therapy session had to be the best $200 dollars we have spent in a long time and I am excited to keep practicing and for our next session with you. Last night, my husband said " Wow..this is the most hopeful I have felt for soo long." Couple from Minneapolis"

"I'm a therapist in the U.K. who has been using the OuchKit with my clients. One man I'm working with has huge problems identifying or naming emotions at all, and as for his communication skills, well, they leave a bit to be desired. But with "Ouch" he can take his time, work out what he's feeling and express it appropriately ... Also, I did a little presentation on the OuchKit with the peer group I went to, with some handouts, and just about every single member asked me to get them a pack! Hopefully you will get many more orders in the future as a result. Thanks. A therapist from England"

"Bravo Betsy! You were awesome at last night's workshop--so poised, so thorough and so professional. You restored my hope that there are those in the field who are not there to heal their own wounds, but rather to practice in a way that makes a difference for hurting marriages . . . So thanks for sharing your wisdom and passion with the toughest audience--your peers. Joan Pechauer, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist"

"My wife and I started using the Ouch Kit about 5 months ago. We have used the ouch kit cards for times of upset and times of joy. We often find ourselves spontaneously coming back to the Ouch Kit and it ALWAYS helps. You have something very special that really works. My wife and I find that we communicate better and more often. Thank you for the impact you have had on our lives and bless you for the positive impact you no doubt have on many others. Michael J. Montegut President & CEO, Crimson Compass, Inc. www.crimsoncompass.com "

"Betsy, We love coming to see you!! I think it must have taken a lot out of Mark, though-- he has been asleep since right after dinner! Client "

"Hi Betsy, I am SO Excited to "Fix" our No-Communication issue!! This is Simple enough for my hub to Understand! & My feelings are SO Much Clearer Via Handwritting! SO I'm GLAD to have found you! Here's to Your Success! You Deserve it for making Families Communicate! THANK YOU! Alisha Peck A Wife & Mother of 2. "

"The ouchkit is a wonderful idea. Especially when you are teaching your young children to express themselves without screaming, hitting or even biting. I think you have a wonderful product. I really hope to see in it Parenting one day! I highly recommend you using Betsy! Best of Luck, Michaele McMillan "

"Betsy understands the mute pain people feel, and gives them practical ways of expressing it that don't trivialize it but don't exaggerate it either." Barbara Freese, author